Posts Tagged ‘self-confidence’

Living Fearless

Friday, June 25th, 2010

I love being a coach.  I enjoy supporting and helping clients to succeed in having the life they want through learning to live Fearless.  My road to recovery has helped me to be able to help clients.  Who’s better to teach clients to get to the other side than someone who has done it.

Living Fearless isn’t something you learn over night.  It’s a process.  Depending on where a client is in their life depends on their success.  If a client is truly ready to shift their way of thinking and being they will do the work.  They will be consistent.  Those that maybe aren’t quite there yet will most often resist the homework, new concepts, and the tools and they will continue to allow fear to control their choices and decisions.

The key to recovery is discovering what’s really going on in your life and in your mind.  This awareness will support you in understanding that you create much of the symtoms as a result of your reactions to things around you and your thoughts about those things.

Each thought, whether you perceive it as negative or positive, is an investment that pays immediate dividends.  These dividends are the results of what you think.  If you think negative thoughts (thoughts that don’t feel good to you) then you receive negative results (results you don’t like or want).  This is a sign that fear is in control and leads to feelings of anger, disappointment, stress, anxiety, worry, panic, overwhelm, and oftentimes depression.

If you think positive thoughts (thoughts that feel good to you) you receive positive results (results you like and want, results that feel good).  This is a definite sign that you are living in freedom – Living Fearless – and this leads to feelings of love, peacefulness, acceptance, compassion, contentment, joy, and self confidence that gives you the power to achieve what you want.

So how do you invest wisely and receive positive, feel good, dividends – results?  First, you want to become aware of your thoughts.  Second, know that fear will always come up to try and stop you from making changes.  Third, when this happens, you have to be willing to experience the fear and make the changes anyway.  You have the power to choose your thoughts and align them with good feelings such as love, peace, acceptance, joy, compassion, contentment, and self confidence.

You don’t want to wait until you feel like you’re ready to make these changes or, in most cases, it will never happen.  Only by doing it, the thing you fear, is the only way you will begin to feel like you’re ready and it will become easier and less fearful.  You’ve got to feel the fear, experience the anxiety, the body symptoms, and live through it to know you’re going to get through it.

Sending You Love, Good Health, and Well-Being,

Joyce


How to Create the Life You Want

Friday, August 22nd, 2008

Self-confidence empowers us to live life fearlessly and happily.  Do I have Self-Confidence?  To answer that question, one could ask: Do I love myself?  Do I trust myself?  Do I believe in myself?  Do I treat myself kindly?  Do I enjoy being me?

The answer comes from our thoughts; those we think about most of the time have become our reality.  Thoughts are the result of beliefs.  At the very core of those beliefs that shape your life, your health, career, relationships, finances, and level of happiness are the thoughts you have about yourself.

Where does self-confidence come from?  It comes from the feedback of others, and from our own internal self-interpretations.  For example, does a child have self-confidence who has never experienced the love, encouragement, and praise from a parent?  Does a comedian have self-confidence who has never made people laugh?  Does an engineer have self-confidence who has never developed a design that works?  Does a lover have self-confidence who has never experienced the joys of intimacy with another?  Our self-confidence comes from the way we interpret our experiences.

Having self-confidence doesn’t mean that we don’t make mistakes.  We all make mistakes and we are all capable of criticizing self, our body, our mate, our career, and our children while neglecting to see those qualities that are attractive.  As we choose to shift our thinking and are able to look at our mistakes as opportunities to learn and grow, self-confidence arises out of what was formerly disapproval and judgment of self and others.

When you have self-confidence you are able to trust yourself and begin to listen to your own inner voice.  You know you are able to rely on your own choices, decisions, and actions.  You have peace of mind regardless of your current circumstances.  You have the ability to reduce the anxiety that is so detrimental to a youthful, healthy life.

Are you willing to recreate yourself to have the life you want?  It’s important to remember that creation takes place in each moment.  It’s a process and requires you to be gentle, patient, and loving to yourself.  It requires you to accept yourself as you are now in order to become the person you want to be.  It requires you to begin choosing your thoughts.  As you continue to create the person you want to be, the new thoughts will become as automatic as the old ones had been.  Though it isn’t easy to create new mental habit patterns, with practice it becomes possible.  Expect that your self-work will give you results, and it will.

I would love to hear from you and any thoughts you have on how our thoughts  affect our self-confidence and our life.   

Warmly, Joyce

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Email:  joyce@unlockingyourvision.com Phone:  858-945-4928

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