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Eliminating Expectations

Saturday, July 3rd, 2010

I read an article recently about a researcher, neuroscientist Dr. John Lilly.  He has worked with Dolphins for over 20 years and suggests that the dolphin’s brain waves equate with those waves that, in humans, accompany the meditative state.  This may explain why people who spend some time in the water with dolphins describe the experience as transcendental.

According to Dr. Lilly, by reason of the dolphin’s peaceful, content, and compassionate nature, the dolphin has an energy vibration which exerts a powerful and positive influence on humans.  In order for us to exert a powerful and positive influence with others we need to accept our self and others for who we are and begin to recognize and embrace the beauty that is in all of us.  When we can accomplish this then our nature will become that of peaceful, content, and compassionate.  A person who is inwardly truly happy will make other people feel encouraged just by his or her presence and the stronger the personality, the more influential it will be.

Accepting our self and others for who we are, weaknesses and strengths, means letting go of our expectations.  Expectations can set us up for disappointment and set others up for failure and future blame.  We can’t control what other people choose to say or do.  We can only control our own choices.

How can we eliminate expectations? We can turn them into intentions. Once we have identified our expectations, there is much greater possibility of attaining Freedom from being disappointed in others behavior or reaction to us.  You can learn which expectations are realistic and which ones are unrealistic.  You can learn how to reframe your expectations into intention. Expectations are what you think ought to happen as a result of what you do, say, or plan.  It’s dependent upon an outside source.  Whereas, intentions are your approach to life based on the person you truly are.  Ask yourself these questions:  ”How do I want to show up today?”   “How do I want to be in this moment?”  Then allow your internal beauty and your spiritual essence to determine your choices.  It’s dependent only on you – your internal source of wisdom.

What’s so wonderful is that when you act out of intention instead of expectations, you are more likely to experience positive outcomes.  When you approach life with intention instead of expectations, you expand the possibility for mutual satisfaction and support.  When living in intention, accountability is a priority.  Our life is in our hands, no one else’s.  We learn that blaming another is just wasting away our time, energy, and creativity.  This leads to regret and resentment, which leads to losing our power, our choices, and our courage to shine – our courage to be the person we want to be and the person we were meant to be.

All that you seek or desire is in you. It’s not in your environment or the help of others; it is not in luck or chance; it is in your self alone.  Trusting yourself and setting intentions will support you in moving forward and living the life you desire.

Eliminating expectations is a process of transformation.  Many times it can be uncomfortable and scary so having support from someone you trust is a must. Sometimes it can be a friend or relative, other times you may need someone more experienced in this field of change and transformation.

Your willingness to take the step of investing in your life is well worth what you will receive.  You will begin to deliberately create and attract the people and things that support the quality of life you want and desire.

“Live the Life Your Soul Intended” –Rhonda Britten – author of Fearless Living. “You are not stuck where you are unless you decide to be” –Wayne W. Dyer.   “Do not fear going forward slowly, fear only to stand still” –Chinese Proverb

I would love to hear your comments on “Eliminating Expectations”.  Please leave a comment in the space below.  If you want to receive my newsletter click on “Unlocking Your Vision Newsletter” – left hand side of this page. You can also watch my short “Inspirational Dolphin Movie” – left hand side of this page – and sign up at the end.

Sending You Love and Courage to be the Person You were Meant to BE!

Joyce Henderson


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Living in Freedom

Friday, July 2nd, 2010

To celebrate Independence Day I’m offering Four Weeks to learn how to live in Freedom. The teleclass begins Tuesday, July 6th.  To learn more about the class - Click here to register

This class is about living in Freedom which begins with learning how to put yourself and your needs first.  This isn’t selfish, it’s living smart.  As you put your needs first you will be nurturing yourself.  You’ll be taking responsibility for your own life and happiness.  You’ll begin to live a life of joy, fulfillment, contentment, pleasure, abundance, good health and emotional well being.

When something is important to us we always find the resources in order to get it. This class is one of those important things that will not only bring you value as you attend, but will benefit you for the rest of your life.  This is something worth your time and expense.  I want you to have this opportunity to learn how to live in Freedom.

Please click on this link to learn more about the class and to register:

One last thought – I know from experience that if you wait until you feel like it or until you feel you can do it, it will never happen!  Do this for yourself.  I look forward to hearing you on the call.

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Joyce Henderson
Certified Fearless Living Coach
Certified Radical Manifestation Coach
Certified Life Purpose and Career Coach
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Living Fearless

Friday, June 25th, 2010

I love being a coach.  I enjoy supporting and helping clients to succeed in having the life they want through learning to live Fearless.  My road to recovery has helped me to be able to help clients.  Who’s better to teach clients to get to the other side than someone who has done it.

Living Fearless isn’t something you learn over night.  It’s a process.  Depending on where a client is in their life depends on their success.  If a client is truly ready to shift their way of thinking and being they will do the work.  They will be consistent.  Those that maybe aren’t quite there yet will most often resist the homework, new concepts, and the tools and they will continue to allow fear to control their choices and decisions.

The key to recovery is discovering what’s really going on in your life and in your mind.  This awareness will support you in understanding that you create much of the symtoms as a result of your reactions to things around you and your thoughts about those things.

Each thought, whether you perceive it as negative or positive, is an investment that pays immediate dividends.  These dividends are the results of what you think.  If you think negative thoughts (thoughts that don’t feel good to you) then you receive negative results (results you don’t like or want).  This is a sign that fear is in control and leads to feelings of anger, disappointment, stress, anxiety, worry, panic, overwhelm, and oftentimes depression.

If you think positive thoughts (thoughts that feel good to you) you receive positive results (results you like and want, results that feel good).  This is a definite sign that you are living in freedom – Living Fearless – and this leads to feelings of love, peacefulness, acceptance, compassion, contentment, joy, and self confidence that gives you the power to achieve what you want.

So how do you invest wisely and receive positive, feel good, dividends – results?  First, you want to become aware of your thoughts.  Second, know that fear will always come up to try and stop you from making changes.  Third, when this happens, you have to be willing to experience the fear and make the changes anyway.  You have the power to choose your thoughts and align them with good feelings such as love, peace, acceptance, joy, compassion, contentment, and self confidence.

You don’t want to wait until you feel like you’re ready to make these changes or, in most cases, it will never happen.  Only by doing it, the thing you fear, is the only way you will begin to feel like you’re ready and it will become easier and less fearful.  You’ve got to feel the fear, experience the anxiety, the body symptoms, and live through it to know you’re going to get through it.

Sending You Love, Good Health, and Well-Being,

Joyce


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You Decide if You Want to be Happy

Wednesday, March 17th, 2010

You Decide if You Want to be Happy is something that I believed yet was confused by the fact that I allowed my circumstances to constantly get in the way of my being happy?  Circumstances that triggered fear; fear of not being lovable, not being good enough, and not being smart enough.  As I continued to allow the circumstances of my life to trigger the fear, my happiness became less and less, and unhappiness became my “state of being”.  Not because I chose it but because I didn’t understand how to stop it.  Fear was in control of my life.  In that state of being my feelings lied to me, my thoughts betrayed me as I rationalized and made excuses, and my actions became self destructive.

We all strive for Happiness in life.  Like many, I thought that achievements such as material things, money, the perfect marriage, education, family, a certain job, and financial/social status would make me happy, otherwise I must be less than everyone else.   Through my own pursuit of happiness I have learned that these achievements have little to do with my happiness or with my value as a person.  As I continued to live with my expectations of what happiness should look like it seemed to further escape my mental grasp and became even harder for me to express or define.

Happiness that came from my achievements, possessions, people, or temporary pleasures worked for awhile but eventually their power to deliver happiness faded.  The only lasting happiness comes from within each of us.  Sounds simple yet not easy to understand or do.

Life does throw us some uncomfortable and sometimes painful circumstances.  But as we begin to recognize that in these circumstances our life is continually sprinkled with ample opportunities for discovering happiness.  Circumstances provide us with opportunities to recognize how fear controls our life and our choices.  With this awareness we can then begin to make better choices to create the happiness that we want.  We begin to notice the little things.  A laugh, a smile, time with family and friends, time with yourself, giving or receiving a word of encouragement, a compliment, the joy that children, animals, and nature bring to us.  These are the treasures that enhance our happiness, not some grand achievement that only give us a lift for a short while.

I’ve learned that focusing on the present, accepting the life I have now, consciously recognizing the things I do have in my life to be grateful for, appreciating brief moments, small miracles, and choosing to recognize and acknowledge my little victories are the keys that move me towards my happiness.

People don’t choose to be unhappy, yet they don’t think they have a choice.  I didn’t believe that I picked that state of being, but I did believe that my unhappiness was a result of being wronged, feeling unworthy, less fortunate, and that I didn’t have control over this outcome.  I did acknowledge that something did happen to cause the feeling of unhappiness but the issue was that I had a choice in how I responded to what happened.  I could decide to stay unhappy or I could decide to accept that something did happen, feel it, allow myself to be in it, then make the decision to move on and allow myself to be happy.  I had to make that choice for myself.  When I understood that I actually could choose to be happy or unhappy, and that I deserve and have a right to be happy, it began to change my life.

When we are not experiencing happiness, the brilliance of our heart and mind, the essence of who we are is hidden under clouds of negative thoughts, emotions, and behaviors.  The concepts and tools that I teach in Fearless Living empowered me, not only in reducing the cloud cover but guided me to understand and embrace my true nature of being happy.  Fearless Living helps you to understand the complete freedom you have in choosing happiness and that you deserve nothing less.

We do have the power to control whether we feel happy or not.

Warmly, Joyce


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Becoming Aware

Wednesday, July 16th, 2008

Do you struggle with your health and well-being?  Are you challenged with making the choices that support the life you desire?  Are you confused about how to attract what will support good health and happiness?  Are you aware of your own self-healing potential?  Exploring this dilemma you will recognize that your state of mind has tremendous importance regarding what you attract or receive into your life.

We attract that which we desire when our subconscious thoughts and beliefs are in harmony with what we consciously intend.  But if our subconscious thoughts and beliefs run contrary to our conscious wishes we may ultimately lose the result we have achieved or want to achieve because the strength of our subconscious beliefs tends to eventually win out.  This is not cause for blame or guilt.  After all, we are not aware of how our subconscious beliefs work.  So how do we get clear of these contrary beliefs?  It’s all about “becoming aware”.  For my life the first area to explore was fear and how it was affecting my life and my choices.  How it prevented me from attracting and receiving that which would support my health, well-being and happiness.

I first recognized the definition of emotional fear and my body’s reaction to it.  My body’s reaction to fear was the same whether I was faced with a physical threat or an emotional one.  The problem was that the experience of a real or perceived threat was stored in my long-term memory.  So when I would see or hear something that appeared to be a threat my instinct was to run to avoid the pain whether it was physical or emotional.  I didn’t think to stop and find out whether the danger was real or not.

Throughout my life I added to my fears through my experiences.  As these negative experiences, either perceived or real, happened regularly over many years then my mental, emotional, and physical health were affected and clearly in danger.  This harmed my ability to experience my natural state of harmony and balance, good health and well-being, and it harmed my ability to simply enjoy life.

Becoming aware was the first step to healthy change.  I made the choice to become aware of how emotional fear was running my life and I learned what those fears were.  I then had the power to break free of my conditioning (old patterns of thinking and behavior) and make choices about how I wanted to think and behave.  Otherwise my subconscious mind and my conditioning would continue to decide for me.

I learned about the Fearless Living tools and concepts and I now use them in my own life daily.  They have shown me how to outsmart fear rather than allowing the memory of fear to determine my life.  I have learned to embrace the fullness of who I am including my limitations.  I have learned and practice daily making choices that support me in being my true self – the person I was meant to be.  I am once again able to experience my natural state of harmony and balance, good health and well-being, and I’m able to simply enjoy life once again.

My experience can also be your experience if you choose to explore how fear controls your choices, your health and well-being, and your happiness.  Self awareness is the key to transformation and in creating the life you desire.

I would like to receive your thoughts on fear and how it can control our lives and our choices.

“Live the Life Your Soul Intended” quote by Rhonda Britten founder of the Fearless Living Institute and author of the book “Fearless Living”.

“Do not fear going forward slowly, fear only to stand still. -Chinese Proverb

“You are not stuck where you are unless you decide to be. -Wayne W. Dyer

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