Posts Tagged ‘Fear’

Are You Voting on November 4th?

Tuesday, October 7th, 2008

We are all living, whether we like to admit it or not, in turbulent times right now.  We are consumed with fear and our faith is being tested.  Everyday I wakeup with the intention to think positively, focus on the good but even with the best intentions I sometimes find myself failing miserably.  But, instead of beating myself up, complaining, making excuses, or avoiding the situation, I ask myself. “what is the gift in all of this mess?” In order to find the gift we must look for it and ask ourselves ”what is right during these challenging times and what is it that we can learn?”

Don’t let fear keep you stuck by complaining, making excuses, or ignoring the situation.  This is an opportunity to be a part of the change that is needed in helping our country move forward and thrive.  In order to be a part of this opportunity we have to VOTE on election day, November 4th, 2008.  I’ve included a blog written my Rhonda Britten, founder of Fearless Living Institute and author of “Fearless Living”.  This article expresses my feelings and I hope encourages you to be a part of this time of challenge.

Warmly, Joyce

Election – written by Rhonda Britten

This election, being fearless means you will:
1. Vote
I have spoken to many folks and some are hemming and hawing not sure who to vote for. The next words out of their mouth shock me: I will vote but not for the President. Or I hear: I just don’t know who to vote for so I just won’t vote.WHAT!!!?!?!?!?!
Indecision is a natural part of the process but deciding not to decide IS deciding. If you don’t vote, you are giving the rest of the nation the opportunity to choose your fate. I challenge you to figure out where else in your life you are allowing ‘fate’ to make your decisions for you. This is a passive way to live and not the fearless path.

2. Language
Become aware of the fearbased language the candidates use as well as their fearless words. What issues concern you? Pay attention to how the candidates are proposing to solve them. What is their process? Are they making suggestions based on the fear of the masses? Are they creating long lasting solutions? Listen, listen, listen. Do not let your Wheel of Fear listen for you.

3. Think about your great grandchildren
The challenges we face right now are ones that must be solved for the long-term. Short-term solutions are band-aids. Sometimes we need a band-aid but if we keep the band-aid on too long it gets crusty, infected and ineffective. A band-aid is not a solution. Just like a wound we must let it heal and that takes time and care.

Every election is critical for the creation of the United States of America. We are literally choosing how our nation will develop based on the candidates and their policies.

I urge us all to pay attention to how we listen, how we decide, how we vote.

We will have a new President. Decide to have your voice be heard. Vote.

“Invest in the life you have now to get the life you want”  Rhonda Britten

To learn more about Fearless Living go to: www.fearlessliving.org

Courage is a door that can only be opened from the inside.
– Terry Neil

No Beating Yourself Up

Monday, July 28th, 2008

Do you ever put yourself down for not getting everything done, not getting it done right, and not getting it done fast enough? Do you ever feel guilty because you think you could have done the work better? Do you ever feel worthless because nothing you do seems good enough? Do you ever say to yourself, “What the heck is wrong with you?” “How could you do something like that?” “Won’t you ever learn?”

Beating yourself up will never motivate you to change. Beating yourself up with negative self-talk is the single most damaging thing you can do to yourself. As Rhonda Britten would say, “You’re spinning on the wheel of fear.” When you beat yourself up your confidence, courage, and self-esteem are damaged. You disempower yourself and it keeps you in your negative self-talk.

What if you stopped beating yourself up and instead empowered yourself in any situation? You could accomplish living your life on your own terms. You could shift your negative thoughts about yourself to empowering thoughts. You would begin to notice the things that you do well. You would begin to notice your unique qualities, your skills, your talents, and accept that you’re okay just the way you are.

Awareness is the key and can empower you to stop beating yourself up. Increased awareness helps you to hear your negative self-talk immediately after you utter it. By catching it more quickly you can then choose to stop it and shift to more empowering, good feeling thoughts leading to positive actions

Acknowledging yourself daily is an amazing tool to stop the habit of beating yourself up. This technique builds your self-esteem and your ability to count on yourself. It is a specific way of giving yourself credit – credit that is no doubt long overdue. Acknowledgments are an incredible tool for self-discovery, giving you the ability to increase your awareness of who you really are and at the same time validating your achievements.

Trying to be perfect only leads you to disappointment. Learn to be kind and compassionate to yourself, give yourself a break, and quit trying to be perfect.

I would like to receive your thoughts on fear and how it can control our lives and our choices.

Sending You Love and Blessings, Joyce

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“Live the Life Your Soul Intended” quote by Rhonda Britten founder of the Fearless Living Institute and author of the book “Fearless Living”. www.FearlessLiving.org

We are what we repeatedly do.

–Aristotle

“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.” –Oliver Wendell Holmes