Posts Tagged ‘beliefs’

Limiting Beliefs

Monday, May 4th, 2009

What do you believe about yourself?  Do you think it’s too late to change?  Do you think that you are less talented, less creative, or less intelligent than others?  Do you think it’s too late to travel, take an art class, start a business, or make new friends?  Do you think that your health keeps you from doing what you want?  Do all of these thoughts wear you out and drain your energy?


All of these thoughts keep you stuck in your limited comfort zone.  We may not be happy there, but it is familiar to us so it feels safe. Growth and change simply will not happen inside of our comfort zone.  We have to face our fear and begin to look for opportunities to step out of our comfort zone just a little beyond the safe and familiar.

All of us have beliefs and opinions about ourselves – who we are, our likes and dislikes, our capabilities and limitations.  We sometimes look at possible experiences – travel, events, projects, jobs, creative classes, exercise – and think we know what we’ll enjoy or not enjoy, what will feel good to us and what won’t feel good, and how we will react to people and places. Have you ever thought that maybe these beliefs aren’t even true and possibly you’ve made them up?

None of us know what an experience will be like until we are in it.  And even if we’ve had an experience before it may be a different experience three years later.  We will be a different person in three, five, or ten years and we will have a completely different experience based on who we are right now.

Our subconscious mind – our ego wants us to believe limited beliefs and thoughts about ourself.  It is deeply invested in its self perception.  If we believe what the ego tells us, we will stay within its self-perception and become more and more entrenched in who we think we are.  Our comfort zone will not only stay the same, it may shrink as we become more and more convinced of ourselves as limited beings.

The fact is we don’t know who we truly are.  We are not limited beings. We are devine beings and we have a spiritual resource – our intuition – that can help us shift our perception about ourselves.

When we connect with our intuition we recognize that it’s okay to not truly know anything about ourselves and that it’s a good thing.  We can then approach our life with curiosity and excitement.  We can let go of expectations and judgment.  We can let go of attachment and embrace constant self-discovery.  We can simply be with what is, and constantly delight in discovering who we are right now, knowing that next week, we may be completely different.  We can choose to let go of fear and embrace life to the fullest.

What steps can you take outside of your comfort zone this week?  What could happen if you did?  When was the last time you surprised yourself?  Take ten minutes every day to visualize what it could look like to step out of your comfort zone and dare to do something you never thought possible. How could it change your life?

If you take this challenge I would love to hear from you about your experience.

Sending you love, good health, and protection.

Warmly, Joyce

Joyce Henderson
Certified Fearless Living Coach
Certified Life Purpose and Career Coach
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How to Create the Life You Want

Friday, August 22nd, 2008

Self-confidence empowers us to live life fearlessly and happily.  Do I have Self-Confidence?  To answer that question, one could ask: Do I love myself?  Do I trust myself?  Do I believe in myself?  Do I treat myself kindly?  Do I enjoy being me?

The answer comes from our thoughts; those we think about most of the time have become our reality.  Thoughts are the result of beliefs.  At the very core of those beliefs that shape your life, your health, career, relationships, finances, and level of happiness are the thoughts you have about yourself.

Where does self-confidence come from?  It comes from the feedback of others, and from our own internal self-interpretations.  For example, does a child have self-confidence who has never experienced the love, encouragement, and praise from a parent?  Does a comedian have self-confidence who has never made people laugh?  Does an engineer have self-confidence who has never developed a design that works?  Does a lover have self-confidence who has never experienced the joys of intimacy with another?  Our self-confidence comes from the way we interpret our experiences.

Having self-confidence doesn’t mean that we don’t make mistakes.  We all make mistakes and we are all capable of criticizing self, our body, our mate, our career, and our children while neglecting to see those qualities that are attractive.  As we choose to shift our thinking and are able to look at our mistakes as opportunities to learn and grow, self-confidence arises out of what was formerly disapproval and judgment of self and others.

When you have self-confidence you are able to trust yourself and begin to listen to your own inner voice.  You know you are able to rely on your own choices, decisions, and actions.  You have peace of mind regardless of your current circumstances.  You have the ability to reduce the anxiety that is so detrimental to a youthful, healthy life.

Are you willing to recreate yourself to have the life you want?  It’s important to remember that creation takes place in each moment.  It’s a process and requires you to be gentle, patient, and loving to yourself.  It requires you to accept yourself as you are now in order to become the person you want to be.  It requires you to begin choosing your thoughts.  As you continue to create the person you want to be, the new thoughts will become as automatic as the old ones had been.  Though it isn’t easy to create new mental habit patterns, with practice it becomes possible.  Expect that your self-work will give you results, and it will.

I would love to hear from you and any thoughts you have on how our thoughts  affect our self-confidence and our life.   

Warmly, Joyce

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