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Limiting Beliefs

Monday, May 4th, 2009

What do you believe about yourself?  Do you think it’s too late to change?  Do you think that you are less talented, less creative, or less intelligent than others?  Do you think it’s too late to travel, take an art class, start a business, or make new friends?  Do you think that your health keeps you from doing what you want?  Do all of these thoughts wear you out and drain your energy?


All of these thoughts keep you stuck in your limited comfort zone.  We may not be happy there, but it is familiar to us so it feels safe. Growth and change simply will not happen inside of our comfort zone.  We have to face our fear and begin to look for opportunities to step out of our comfort zone just a little beyond the safe and familiar.

All of us have beliefs and opinions about ourselves – who we are, our likes and dislikes, our capabilities and limitations.  We sometimes look at possible experiences – travel, events, projects, jobs, creative classes, exercise – and think we know what we’ll enjoy or not enjoy, what will feel good to us and what won’t feel good, and how we will react to people and places. Have you ever thought that maybe these beliefs aren’t even true and possibly you’ve made them up?

None of us know what an experience will be like until we are in it.  And even if we’ve had an experience before it may be a different experience three years later.  We will be a different person in three, five, or ten years and we will have a completely different experience based on who we are right now.

Our subconscious mind – our ego wants us to believe limited beliefs and thoughts about ourself.  It is deeply invested in its self perception.  If we believe what the ego tells us, we will stay within its self-perception and become more and more entrenched in who we think we are.  Our comfort zone will not only stay the same, it may shrink as we become more and more convinced of ourselves as limited beings.

The fact is we don’t know who we truly are.  We are not limited beings. We are devine beings and we have a spiritual resource – our intuition – that can help us shift our perception about ourselves.

When we connect with our intuition we recognize that it’s okay to not truly know anything about ourselves and that it’s a good thing.  We can then approach our life with curiosity and excitement.  We can let go of expectations and judgment.  We can let go of attachment and embrace constant self-discovery.  We can simply be with what is, and constantly delight in discovering who we are right now, knowing that next week, we may be completely different.  We can choose to let go of fear and embrace life to the fullest.

What steps can you take outside of your comfort zone this week?  What could happen if you did?  When was the last time you surprised yourself?  Take ten minutes every day to visualize what it could look like to step out of your comfort zone and dare to do something you never thought possible. How could it change your life?

If you take this challenge I would love to hear from you about your experience.

Sending you love, good health, and protection.

Warmly, Joyce

Joyce Henderson
Certified Fearless Living Coach
Certified Life Purpose and Career Coach
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Connecting to our Higher Self

Thursday, April 9th, 2009

What is your Higher Self?  It is that beautiful part of us that connects us to God, the Universe, our Spiritual Intelligence, Spirit, Jesus, or Buddha depending on your religious beliefs.  Most of us have tried many practices in order to connect to this spiritual part of us – prayer, meditation, yoga, affirmations, and visualization.  At times we have felt successful when our life is going smoothly and we seem to have what we want and our feelings are that of inner peace, joy, contentment, and harmony. Yet so easily we can be back into that confused state of feeling fear, doubt, confusion and wondering what happened.  We try to connect again but maybe this time it doesn’t work and we wonder why, what are we doing different, what are we doing wrong?  We go away more confused about our connection to God .  

The world is so complex and when we are so caught up in the illusion of things having to be a certain way we are then disconnected from our Higher Self.  When we are caught up in the illusion of how things should be or shouldn’t be it is then that our conscious mind is being easily influenced by our subconscious mind – where our core negative beliefs stay hidden.  They stay hidden because we don’t want to look at them.  We want to avoid them and pretend they don’t exist.  Most of the time we do this unconsciously and that continues to give those core negative beliefs power to influence our choices and our life experiences.  

Think of a time when your conscious mind came up with a wonderful idea or thought about something you wanted, something you wanted to do, or something you wanted to change in your life.  But before you could begin seeing the possibility of this happening and the opportunities that the Universe/God has presented to you, your subconscious mind began sending messages of discouragement telling you the many reasons why you couldn’t do what you wanted, why you couldn’t have what you wanted, or why you couldn’t be what you wanted.  

Here are some possible reasons or excuses you may have told yourself:  I can’t do this – what am I thinking – I’m not smart enough – I’m not spiritual enough – I’m not good enough – who am I to think I deserve this – other people are more important than I am.  When these thoughts/core negative beliefs come up – who usually wins most of the time – your conscious thoughts of wanting and having, or your subconscious beliefs that you can’t have what you want and you don’t deserve to want it?  

Our subconscious mind/core negative beliefs are stronger than our conscious mind leading us to give up, without a fight, on what we really want and so we settle.  The fear of not being able to have what we want causes us to stay in victim mode because we believe deep down that things will never change.    

How can we change this?  WOW!!  I’m right there with you as I have tried so many ways to connect with my higher self – my spiritual intelligence on a regular basis.  I’ve tried many things to create what it is that I want.  In many programs we’re told we have to reprogram those old thoughts and beliefs about ourself that keep us stuck.  We try and yet those old thoughts and beliefs continue to stop us from taking action, from stepping out of our comfort zone, from taking a risk and going for what we want.  We still continue to allow those old thoughts and beliefs to determine our actions most of the time.  

I believe the reason for this is that our old belief system started in our Mother’s womb and has helped to create our old thoughts and behavior patterns.  That is a life long accumulation of negative stuff to try and reprogram.  If we could do it it would take a long, long time.  We may succeed to a small degree but it continues to be more work than we want.  

What I have learned from my own experience is that we can recognize and accept that we have these old beliefs and that it’s okay to have them.  They’re a part of us and they are always going to be in our subconscious.  That isn’t a bad thing, it’s just what it is.  

Being honest about our old beliefs and our feelings about them will help us to turn our focus on our new beliefs and how we can support those. Being clear on what isn’t working and what we don’t want helps us to become clear on what will work and what we do want.  Clarity helps us to bypass those old beliefs and supports our focus in turning our thoughts to our new beliefs.  

Remember those old beliefs are always going to show up when you least expect it.  It all comes down to your willingness to recognize them and accept them, then choose right at that moment to shift your thinking. To be able to do this you have to know what it is that you do want.  Sometimes we aren’t really sure what that is when we are asked.  So take the time to describe what it is you feel you are lacking, clarify what it is you want, list the reasons why you want it and how it would benefit your life.  Even if you want it for the sheer pleasure of having it that is okay.  Until you are completely honest with yourself in being clear about what you want, describing it, and giving the reasons why you want it you can’t create it.  

If you are at a place in your life where you’re recognizing your desire to become more connected to your Higher Self please email joyce@unlockingyourvision.com or call me at 858-945-4928 and I will be happy to have a consultation with you to find clarity as to what it is that you want and how to achieve it.  I will support and empower you with compassion, understanding, acceptance, and with the tools that will move you quickly forward.  You will learn what is holding you back and what is needed in order for you to stop sabotaging yourself from creating the life you want.  Choosing to connect daily with your Higher Self will strengthen your ability to create what you are wanting and then your core negative beliefs will begin to have less and less power in your life.  

You were meant to have a great life, to feel passion, fulfillment, contentment, and joy in living and being; connecting to your Higher Self will support you in having all of that.

I would love to hear your comments on “Connecting to our Higher Self”. 

Warmly, Joyce

joyce@unlockingyourvision.com

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