According to Dr. Lilly, by reason of the dolphin’s peaceful, content, and compassionate nature, the dolphin has an energy vibration which exerts a powerful and positive influence on humans.  In order for us to exert a powerful and positive influence with others we need to accept our self and others for who we are and begin to recognize and embrace the beauty that is in all of us.  When we can accomplish this then our nature will become that of peaceful, content, and compassionate.  A person who is inwardly truly happy will make other people feel encouraged just by his or her presence and the stronger the personality, the more influential it will be.

Accepting our self and others for who we are, weaknesses and strengths, means letting go of our expectations.  Expectations can set us up for disappointment and set others up for failure and future blame.  We can’t control what other people choose to say or do.  We can only control our own choices.

How can we eliminate expectations? We can turn them into intentions. Once we have identified our expectations, there is much greater possibility of attaining Freedom from being disappointed in others behavior or reaction to us.  You can learn which expectations are realistic and which ones are unrealistic.  You can learn how to reframe your expectations into intention. Expectations are what you think ought to happen as a result of what you do, say, or plan.  It’s dependent upon an outside source.  Whereas, intentions are your approach to life based on the person you truly are.  Ask yourself these questions:  ”How do I want to show up today?”   “How do I want to be in this moment?”  Then allow your internal beauty and your spiritual essence to determine your choices.  It’s dependent only on you – your internal source of wisdom.

What’s so wonderful is that when you act out of intention instead of expectations, you are more likely to experience positive outcomes.  When you approach life with intention instead of expectations, you expand the possibility for mutual satisfaction and support.  When living in intention, accountability is a priority.  Our life is in our hands, no one else’s.  We learn that blaming another is just wasting away our time, energy, and creativity.  This leads to regret and resentment, which leads to losing our power, our choices, and our courage to shine – our courage to be the person we want to be and the person we were meant to be.

All that you seek or desire is in you. It’s not in your environment or the help of others; it is not in luck or chance; it is in your self alone.  Trusting yourself and setting intentions will support you in moving forward and living the life you desire.

Eliminating expectations is a process of transformation.  Many times it can be uncomfortable and scary so having support from someone you trust is a must. Sometimes it can be a friend or relative, other times you may need someone more experienced in this field of change and transformation.

Your willingness to take the step of investing in your life is well worth what you will receive.  You will begin to deliberately create and attract the people and things that support the quality of life you want and desire.

“Live the Life Your Soul Intended” –Rhonda Britten – author of Fearless Living. “You are not stuck where you are unless you decide to be” –Wayne W. Dyer.   “Do not fear going forward slowly, fear only to stand still” –Chinese Proverb

I would love to hear your comments on “Eliminating Expectations”.  Please leave a comment in the space below.  If you want to receive my newsletter click on “Unlocking Your Vision Newsletter” – left hand side of this page. You can also watch my short “Inspirational Dolphin Movie” – left hand side of this page – and sign up at the end.

Sending You Love and Courage to be the Person You were Meant to BE!

Joyce Henderson

This class is about living in Freedom which begins with learning how to put yourself and your needs first.  This isn’t selfish, it’s living smart.  As you put your needs first you will be nurturing yourself.  You’ll be taking responsibility for your own life and happiness.  You’ll begin to live a life of joy, fulfillment, contentment, pleasure, abundance, good health and emotional well being.

When something is important to us we always find the resources in order to get it. This class is one of those important things that will not only bring you value as you attend, but will benefit you for the rest of your life.  This is something worth your time and expense.  I want you to have this opportunity to learn how to live in Freedom.

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One last thought – I know from experience that if you wait until you feel like it or until you feel you can do it, it will never happen!  Do this for yourself.  I look forward to hearing you on the call.

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Living Fearless isn’t something you learn over night.  It’s a process.  Depending on where a client is in their life depends on their success.  If a client is truly ready to shift their way of thinking and being they will do the work.  They will be consistent.  Those that maybe aren’t quite there yet will most often resist the homework, new concepts, and the tools and they will continue to allow fear to control their choices and decisions.

The key to recovery is discovering what’s really going on in your life and in your mind.  This awareness will support you in understanding that you create much of the symtoms as a result of your reactions to things around you and your thoughts about those things.

Each thought, whether you perceive it as negative or positive, is an investment that pays immediate dividends.  These dividends are the results of what you think.  If you think negative thoughts (thoughts that don’t feel good to you) then you receive negative results (results you don’t like or want).  This is a sign that fear is in control and leads to feelings of anger, disappointment, stress, anxiety, worry, panic, overwhelm, and oftentimes depression.

If you think positive thoughts (thoughts that feel good to you) you receive positive results (results you like and want, results that feel good).  This is a definite sign that you are living in freedom – Living Fearless – and this leads to feelings of love, peacefulness, acceptance, compassion, contentment, joy, and self confidence that gives you the power to achieve what you want.

So how do you invest wisely and receive positive, feel good, dividends – results?  First, you want to become aware of your thoughts.  Second, know that fear will always come up to try and stop you from making changes.  Third, when this happens, you have to be willing to experience the fear and make the changes anyway.  You have the power to choose your thoughts and align them with good feelings such as love, peace, acceptance, joy, compassion, contentment, and self confidence.

You don’t want to wait until you feel like you’re ready to make these changes or, in most cases, it will never happen.  Only by doing it, the thing you fear, is the only way you will begin to feel like you’re ready and it will become easier and less fearful.  You’ve got to feel the fear, experience the anxiety, the body symptoms, and live through it to know you’re going to get through it.

Sending You Love, Good Health, and Well-Being,

Joyce

This past month I had to stop and take a closer look at my excuses.  I was faced with some very challenging circumstances and, instead of using my Fearless Living tools, I returned to my negative thoughts.  For example: “why don’t I feel good, why can’t I get anything done, why is life so difficult, why am I feeling unhappy, why am I feeling so stressed and anxious, why am I afraid, why doesn’t anybody understand, and on and on”.

I had stopped my daily walks, I put off writing my newsletter, I ignored work that needed to be done in my business and around the house, I pulled away from relationships that I felt were becoming difficult, and I was skipping meals and eating in the evenings – which isn’t good for weight loss, restful sleep, and overall health.  When I stay in this place of making excuses for very long, the feelings of panic, anxiety, and depression return and I start to feel overwhelmed and unhappy with my life.

It continues to amaze me how our old patterns of behavior and thinking can return so easily.  I know in my conscious mind that when I begin making excuses it’s going to take me to a place I don’t want to go.  I also know the Fearless Living tools and concepts well and that they can take me out of fear and excuses, with ease and little effort, and back to where I want to be – in my freedom.  Freedom from anxiety, panic, depression, and feeling overwhelmed and unhappy.

In our subconscious mind we never get rid of those old patterns of thinking, but we do want to outsmart them.  That’s where the miracle comes in because in our conscious mind we can become aware of those negative thoughts; we can then choose to put our focus on shifting to better feeling thoughts leading us to better, more productive behaviors that feel good to us.

Once I became aware of my excuses, I began practicing my Fearless Living tools once again.  Within a few days I began to let go of my excuses and my negative thoughts were replaced with gratitude.  I started recognizing the blessings in my life and acknowledged what I was doing well.  I then shifted my focus to what I wanted to do and made choices that felt good to me.  I didn’t beat myself up, instead I was gentle with myself in acknowledging the negative place I had gotten too, yet relieved in knowing that I could make a different choice and put action behind it.

The longer we stay in fear and our excuses, the harder it is to get out of them. It’s like a mountain – It’s easy to climb down, but the farther you go down the harder it is to get back up.  We have to consciously choose to shift our thinking and actions even if it feels painful and difficult at first.  The results you receive are joy, peace of mind, calm, and you begin making choices that will take you where you want to go with ease and little effort.  You will become the person you truly want to be creating the life you want.  A life of happiness, health, peace of mind, and success.

Let go of your excuses this week and instead begin each day with gratitude and  acknowledge the things in your life that you are doing well, the things you like to do, and the people that you love and who love you.  Then begin taking small steps and set goals that feel doable.  Embrace the freedom and power that is already within you, and make new and rewarding choices no matter what your circumstances are.

Sending you love and gratitude, Joyce

I would enjoy hearing your comments on excuses

Taking time to meet our own needs may seem selfish to some, but it’s just the opposite, it’s the best gift you can give to yourself. If your not giving yourself the gift of self love and self care then ask yourself why and the answer is most likely fear.  I believe that true happiness comes from within and from our ability to love and care for our own needs.  When fear is in control we make choices that are based on what we think happiness should look like.  When fear is in control we believe that happiness comes from outside of ourself – our circumstances, money, people, and accomplishments.

Fear keeps us in expectations – expecting our happiness to come from outside of ourself instead of from within.  As we recognize and then take responsibility for  our needs getting met and for creating our own happiness miracles begin to happen.  Happiness is our true nature and if we aren’t nurturing ourself first we run out of energy and passion and sadly unhappiness becomes our state of being.

When fear and expectations run our life we have to consciously make the choice to stop, focus, and actually think about what really does make us happy.  Sometimes we need to try new things in order to know what we enjoy or don’t enjoy doing.  Without trying, stepping out and taking risks we will never find out what true happiness means to us and how we can live it everyday. Instead we will  keep looking for happiness outside of our self – through people, things, and places.

I think we can all agree that there is no short cuts to happiness.  Even a happy person does not experience joy/happiness 24 hours a day.  A happy person can have a bad day but still experience pleasure in the small things in life.  If you’re not feeling happy today, step back, choose to consciously see the things in your life you do have to appreciate and focus on gratitude.  Write daily gratitudes to support you in recognizing and embracing your true state of being happy.  Begin to notice when you are in a state of happiness and note the feeling and think about what thought or action created it.

Something that has helped me is to practice daily never saying or doing anything that disempowers myself or others.  No matter what the challenge, there is always a way to approach it in a way that can empower all concerned.  In this way you can find the perfect solution.  Our thoughts can either disempower us or empower us – choose the good ones.

Don’t postpone happiness until you reach a certain goal, like getting a promotion, retiring, taking that perfect vacation, communicating better, or having the great relationship – these things are short lived.  Consciously choose to take the time to focus everyday – to recognize the good things in your life and what you do have control over.

There is no rule or special formula that can make a person constantly happy. Instead, Happiness comes from developing positive thoughts and behaviors that lead to fulfilling social relationships, enjoyable work, better communication, and in taking great care of our mental, spiritual, emotional, and physical needs.  We gain a sense that our life really does have meaning, it does matter, and that we are an integral part of the wholeness of our Universe.

Take the time today to focus, meditate, listen, acknowledge yourself- your small wins and victories, and consciously choose to recognize what you do have to be grateful for.  Be thankful for what you do have now, embrace it, only then can you create the happiness and life that you desire.  This is an essential component of happiness.

You are worthy and deserve nothing less than to be in your natural state of being happy.

Warmly, Joyce

We all strive for Happiness in life.  Like many, I thought that achievements such as material things, money, the perfect marriage, education, family, a certain job, and financial/social status would make me happy, otherwise I must be less than everyone else.   Through my own pursuit of happiness I have learned that these achievements have little to do with my happiness or with my value as a person.  As I continued to live with my expectations of what happiness should look like it seemed to further escape my mental grasp and became even harder for me to express or define.

Happiness that came from my achievements, possessions, people, or temporary pleasures worked for awhile but eventually their power to deliver happiness faded.  The only lasting happiness comes from within each of us.  Sounds simple yet not easy to understand or do.

Life does throw us some uncomfortable and sometimes painful circumstances.  But as we begin to recognize that in these circumstances our life is continually sprinkled with ample opportunities for discovering happiness.  Circumstances provide us with opportunities to recognize how fear controls our life and our choices.  With this awareness we can then begin to make better choices to create the happiness that we want.  We begin to notice the little things.  A laugh, a smile, time with family and friends, time with yourself, giving or receiving a word of encouragement, a compliment, the joy that children, animals, and nature bring to us.  These are the treasures that enhance our happiness, not some grand achievement that only give us a lift for a short while.

I’ve learned that focusing on the present, accepting the life I have now, consciously recognizing the things I do have in my life to be grateful for, appreciating brief moments, small miracles, and choosing to recognize and acknowledge my little victories are the keys that move me towards my happiness.

People don’t choose to be unhappy, yet they don’t think they have a choice.  I didn’t believe that I picked that state of being, but I did believe that my unhappiness was a result of being wronged, feeling unworthy, less fortunate, and that I didn’t have control over this outcome.  I did acknowledge that something did happen to cause the feeling of unhappiness but the issue was that I had a choice in how I responded to what happened.  I could decide to stay unhappy or I could decide to accept that something did happen, feel it, allow myself to be in it, then make the decision to move on and allow myself to be happy.  I had to make that choice for myself.  When I understood that I actually could choose to be happy or unhappy, and that I deserve and have a right to be happy, it began to change my life.

When we are not experiencing happiness, the brilliance of our heart and mind, the essence of who we are is hidden under clouds of negative thoughts, emotions, and behaviors.  The concepts and tools that I teach in Fearless Living empowered me, not only in reducing the cloud cover but guided me to understand and embrace my true nature of being happy.  Fearless Living helps you to understand the complete freedom you have in choosing happiness and that you deserve nothing less.

We do have the power to control whether we feel happy or not.

Warmly, Joyce

Here is a beautiful story that touched my heart as it will yours.  A wonderful, inspiring little girl, Susie, shares those special gifts of kindness, understanding, compassion, and love.

Wet Pants

Come with me to a third grade classroom…..  There is a nine-year-old boy sitting at his desk and all of a sudden, there is a puddle between his feet and the front of his pants are wet.  He thinks his heart is going to stop because he cannot possibly imagine how this has happened.  It’s never happened before, and he knows that when the boys find out he will never hear the end of it.  When the girls find out, they’ll never speak to him again as long as he lives….

The boy believes his heart is going to stop; he puts his head down and prays this prayer, “Dear God, this is an emergency!  I need help now!  Five minutes from now I am dead meat.”

He looks up from his prayer and here comes the teacher with a look in her eyes that says he has been discovered.

As the teacher is walking toward him, a classmate named Susie is carrying a goldfish bowl that is filled with water.  Susie trips in front of the teacher and inexplicably dumps the bowl of water in the boy’s lap.

The boy pretends to be angry, but all the while is saying to himself, “Thank you, Lord! Thank you.”

Now all of a sudden, instead of being the object of ridicule, the boy is the object of compassion.  The teacher rushes him downstairs and gives him gym shorts to put on while his pants dry out.  All the other children are on their hands and knees cleaning up around his desk.  The compassion is wonderful.  But as life would have it, the ridicule that would have been his has been transferred to someone else – Susie…

She tries to help, but they tell her to get out.  You’ve done enough, you klutz!”

Finally, at the end of the day as they are waiting for the bus, the boy walks over to Susie and whispers, “You did that on purpose, didn’t you?” Susie whispers back, “I wet my pants once too…”

This beautiful story was sent to me by a Dear and Special friend, Sandy, who freely gives the gifts of compassion and love to others.  She is a wonderful example of “Susie”.    This story reminds me of how important it is for us to take time everyday to connect with Spirit.  Let’s open our hearts up, be in the present, and choose to recognize those opportunities that are always around us to support others in sharing our compassion and love.

We want to open up to compassion, understanding, and love instead of making fun of others mishaps; causing them to feel badly, guilty, and possibly feeling they’re not accepted and that something is wrong with them..  Being honest with yourself about how you would like to be treated when you make a mistake or become embarrassed will help you to give that to others.  Let’s become like “Susie” and see how much kindness we can give today.

This is an opportunity to be an example for our children, grandchildren, and others.  An example of compassion, love, and giving kindness to those around us.  We can be a small part of changing the world.

Sending you much Love,

Joyce

Hello Everyone,

The handsome picture above is George.  George was rescued from a puppy mill last summer.  He and his mother, Martha, were rescued together.  They were both very thin and in poor health and had to be treated for heart-worms and other physical conditions due to their environment.  Puppy mills treat animals as a commodity – something of use to create products (puppies) for selling.  The dogs lives are not valued, only the money they can bring in.  In this abusive environment their trust of people and of themselves is certainly not nurtured, just the opposite, it is stripped brutally away from them.

My oldest Golden Retriever, Angel, died last summer.  I rescued her when she was 2 years old and she had 13 good years with me, my family, and our other Golden, Daisy.  This breed is definitely pack animals so I decided to rescue another Golden.  But instead I became a foster parent for AGA (Adopt a Golden Atlanta).  I became George and Martha’s foster.  Daisy, being a balanced dog, accepted them into our home unconditionally.

George and Martha were very dependant on each other so in order to prevent more trauma AGA wanted to keep them together when adopted.  For three months we would go to the monthly adoption day where potential adopters came to see the 50 or more rescued Golden’s.  Not all of the Golden’s were from puppy mills, some were found on the streets, but most were given up by families who either couldn’t afford them or couldn’t care for them anymore.

During that three months I worked to rehabilitate George and Martha in order to build trust.  George was most challenged.  He had been kept outside in a small cage all of his 4 years so he was fearful in my large backyard and the anxiety caused him to go round and round in a small circle.   He wouldn’t come to me.  When he was in the house he picked out a corner and that is where he would stay.  He was afraid of everything. every noise, every movement, and even afraid to eat his food.

You’ve probably guessed by now that I adopted both of them.  Martha was doing very well and George was beginning to make some progress with trusting me.  I didn’t want to disrupt their life again and I was fortunate to have the extra time that was needed to work with them.

It’s been 6 months now and George is doing so well.  He is beginning to act like a “dog”.  He walks around and sniffs the backyard, he also sniffs Martha and Daisy’s butts and the cats butt – which is very normal for animals. That’s one way they communicate with each other.  He picks up toys, isn’t quite sure yet what to do with them, but he’s learning from Daisy.  He goes in and out of the doggy door by himself to go potty.  When I go outside with him he will come to me.  He also comes back inside the house on his own, whereas before he would stay outside and cry, anxious and afraid to come back in the house.

He isn’t afraid to come into the kitchen to eat.  He feels free to go into other rooms in the house and doesn’t stay in a corner anymore.  He sleeps beside my bed and will lay his head beside me so I will pet him.  He will eat out of my hand and will push through Martha and Daisy so I will pet him.  The puppy in him is coming alive.  It warms my heart to be a part of and to see the transformation he has made.

George is finding the courage to take risks and step out of what had become his comfort zone.   He is beginning to see that there is nothing to be afraid of. He is learning to trust himself and in return is beginning to trust me.  The fear that triggered George and his reactions to it were based on past treatment of abuse and the memories that were left in his subconscious mind. He’s beginning to recognize that trusting me and coming to me represents good things – I give him treats, pats on the head, and words of praise.

There were occasions when I would need to take a time out and refocus because I would get frustrated.  When I get frustrated the feeling of being helpless comes over me.  That gave me an opportunity to practice, not only patience with George, but patience with myself.  Animals feel our emotions, so when I was feeling frustrated and helpless it triggered George’s fear and anxiety sending him back to his fearful behavior.  Change doesn’t happen overnight, it takes focus, determination, and patience. For some it takes months, even years. George isn’t over his fear and probably never will be completely.  He may never be what some would call a “normal dog”, but then again what’s normal? George is okay right where he is.  He is beginning to sense that he is in a safe place where he can practice being the beautiful, loving puppy that has always been inside of him.

We have all known people who are so fearful it effects their quality of life.  All of us have been there.  Some people have learned to hide it through many different disguises.  We are very good at rationalizing, blaming, making excuses, and beating ourselves up. Dogs don’t think like we do so it is very evident when their life is controlled by fear. They don’t try to rationalize, blame, make excuses, or beat themselves up.  Dogs like George do block themselves off emotionally and possibly never learn to trust people. George doesn’t think about whether someone likes him or not, he only knows how he is treated and that determines his behavior and quality of life.  The treatment he received in the past created fear in him.  His innocence and natural ability to be a playful, loving, and trusting puppy was never nurtured, it was taken from him, and in it’s place he learned to be fearful, doubtful, distrusting, and anxious.

Human beings, as children, can also have their innocence and natural ability to play, love, and trust taken from them as well. People, unlike animals, do have the ability to reason, rationalize, come up with excuses, and blame others for their fear, distrust, and unhappiness.  We push our fears down and hide them from others – or at least we think we do.  We also have the ability to make different choices and use our ability to reason in a productive way. We have access to knowledge and tools to recognize how fear was created in us.  We become aware that fear isn’t our true nature and that we have the power within us to change and to no longer be fearful of what others do, say, or think.  We can learn to trust ourselves and our own inner knowing. We can create a new life, one that heals and brings us the happiness we want.

Words can’t express the joy I feel as I have watched George’s transformation from a fearful dog to his natural state of being a happy, playful puppy.  He is beginning to trust himself which supports his trust in me.  I’m providing George with a safe place, but it is George who is doing the work and taking the risks to trust again.  I feel the same joy when I am able to provide a safe place for my clients to be who they are now.  Through my acceptance, patience, and trust they begin to recognize the natural beauty that has always been inside of them just waiting to feel safe to come out.  Whether it be a person or a dog, it’s a wonderful feeling being a part of their transformation from a fear based life into a life full of abundance, love, trust, and happiness.

George is a wonderful example to all of us that anything is possible.  When we are surrounded by people we can trust and that want the best for us we can change.  Of course George didn’t pick me – anyway I don’t think he did – but we can choose the people we want to be around on a regular basis. Choose people that will nurture you in a loving, accepting way.  People that trust you to know what is best for you.  People that encourage you, love you, and accept you as you are.  They don’t expect you to do things in a certain way, they don’t judge you, but instead they encourage you to be yourself and to make your own choices.  These people recognize that we are all on our own journey and it’s okay.

When we continue to stay in a negative environment most of the time, negativity is what we continue to attract.  Negativity keeps us down, depressed, overwhelmed, and unhappy.  When you choose to be around people that smile and laugh a lot and are happy; people that praise you, hug you, encourage and accept you, this is what you will begin to attract into your life.

I would love to hear any comments or insights you have to share regarding my blog – “Learning to Trust Yourself”.  If you have a story you’d like to share regarding a special animal in your life I would love to hear it.

Sending love and blessings, Joyce

]]> http://www.unlockingyourvision.com/learning-trust/feed/ 5 http://www.unlockingyourvision.com/limiting-beliefs/ http://www.unlockingyourvision.com/limiting-beliefs/#comments Tue, 05 May 2009 03:07:51 +0000 admin-jnh http://www.unlockingyourvision.com/?p=80 What do you believe about yourself?  Do you think it’s too late to change?  Do you think that you are less talented, less creative, or less intelligent than others?  Do you think it’s too late to travel, take an art class, start a business, or make new friends?  Do you think that your health keeps you from doing what you want?  Do all of these thoughts wear you out and drain your energy?

The world is so complex and when we are so caught up in the illusion of things having to be a certain way we are then disconnected from our Higher Self.  When we are caught up in the illusion of how things should be or shouldn’t be it is then that our conscious mind is being easily influenced by our subconscious mind – where our core negative beliefs stay hidden.  They stay hidden because we don’t want to look at them.  We want to avoid them and pretend they don’t exist.  Most of the time we do this unconsciously and that continues to give those core negative beliefs power to influence our choices and our life experiences.  

Think of a time when your conscious mind came up with a wonderful idea or thought about something you wanted, something you wanted to do, or something you wanted to change in your life.  But before you could begin seeing the possibility of this happening and the opportunities that the Universe/God has presented to you, your subconscious mind began sending messages of discouragement telling you the many reasons why you couldn’t do what you wanted, why you couldn’t have what you wanted, or why you couldn’t be what you wanted.  

Here are some possible reasons or excuses you may have told yourself:  I can’t do this – what am I thinking – I’m not smart enough – I’m not spiritual enough – I’m not good enough – who am I to think I deserve this – other people are more important than I am.  When these thoughts/core negative beliefs come up – who usually wins most of the time – your conscious thoughts of wanting and having, or your subconscious beliefs that you can’t have what you want and you don’t deserve to want it?  

Our subconscious mind/core negative beliefs are stronger than our conscious mind leading us to give up, without a fight, on what we really want and so we settle.  The fear of not being able to have what we want causes us to stay in victim mode because we believe deep down that things will never change.    

How can we change this?  WOW!!  I’m right there with you as I have tried so many ways to connect with my higher self – my spiritual intelligence on a regular basis.  I’ve tried many things to create what it is that I want.  In many programs we’re told we have to reprogram those old thoughts and beliefs about ourself that keep us stuck.  We try and yet those old thoughts and beliefs continue to stop us from taking action, from stepping out of our comfort zone, from taking a risk and going for what we want.  We still continue to allow those old thoughts and beliefs to determine our actions most of the time.  

I believe the reason for this is that our old belief system started in our Mother’s womb and has helped to create our old thoughts and behavior patterns.  That is a life long accumulation of negative stuff to try and reprogram.  If we could do it it would take a long, long time.  We may succeed to a small degree but it continues to be more work than we want.  

What I have learned from my own experience is that we can recognize and accept that we have these old beliefs and that it’s okay to have them.  They’re a part of us and they are always going to be in our subconscious.  That isn’t a bad thing, it’s just what it is.  

Being honest about our old beliefs and our feelings about them will help us to turn our focus on our new beliefs and how we can support those. Being clear on what isn’t working and what we don’t want helps us to become clear on what will work and what we do want.  Clarity helps us to bypass those old beliefs and supports our focus in turning our thoughts to our new beliefs.  

Remember those old beliefs are always going to show up when you least expect it.  It all comes down to your willingness to recognize them and accept them, then choose right at that moment to shift your thinking. To be able to do this you have to know what it is that you do want.  Sometimes we aren’t really sure what that is when we are asked.  So take the time to describe what it is you feel you are lacking, clarify what it is you want, list the reasons why you want it and how it would benefit your life.  Even if you want it for the sheer pleasure of having it that is okay.  Until you are completely honest with yourself in being clear about what you want, describing it, and giving the reasons why you want it you can’t create it.  

If you are at a place in your life where you’re recognizing your desire to become more connected to your Higher Self please email joyce@unlockingyourvision.com or call me at 858-945-4928 and I will be happy to have a consultation with you to find clarity as to what it is that you want and how to achieve it.  I will support and empower you with compassion, understanding, acceptance, and with the tools that will move you quickly forward.  You will learn what is holding you back and what is needed in order for you to stop sabotaging yourself from creating the life you want.  Choosing to connect daily with your Higher Self will strengthen your ability to create what you are wanting and then your core negative beliefs will begin to have less and less power in your life.  

You were meant to have a great life, to feel passion, fulfillment, contentment, and joy in living and being; connecting to your Higher Self will support you in having all of that.

I would love to hear your comments on “Connecting to our Higher Self”. 

Warmly, Joyce

joyce@unlockingyourvision.com

www.unlockingyourvision.com

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