Here is a beautiful story that touched my heart as it will yours.  A wonderful, inspiring little girl, Susie, shares those special gifts of kindness, understanding, compassion, and love.

Wet Pants

Come with me to a third grade classroom…..  There is a nine-year-old boy sitting at his desk and all of a sudden, there is a puddle between his feet and the front of his pants are wet.  He thinks his heart is going to stop because he cannot possibly imagine how this has happened.  It’s never happened before, and he knows that when the boys find out he will never hear the end of it.  When the girls find out, they’ll never speak to him again as long as he lives….

The boy believes his heart is going to stop; he puts his head down and prays this prayer, “Dear God, this is an emergency!  I need help now!  Five minutes from now I am dead meat.”

He looks up from his prayer and here comes the teacher with a look in her eyes that says he has been discovered.

As the teacher is walking toward him, a classmate named Susie is carrying a goldfish bowl that is filled with water.  Susie trips in front of the teacher and inexplicably dumps the bowl of water in the boy’s lap.

The boy pretends to be angry, but all the while is saying to himself, “Thank you, Lord! Thank you.”

Now all of a sudden, instead of being the object of ridicule, the boy is the object of compassion.  The teacher rushes him downstairs and gives him gym shorts to put on while his pants dry out.  All the other children are on their hands and knees cleaning up around his desk.  The compassion is wonderful.  But as life would have it, the ridicule that would have been his has been transferred to someone else – Susie…

She tries to help, but they tell her to get out.  You’ve done enough, you klutz!”

Finally, at the end of the day as they are waiting for the bus, the boy walks over to Susie and whispers, “You did that on purpose, didn’t you?” Susie whispers back, “I wet my pants once too…”

This beautiful story was sent to me by a Dear and Special friend, Sandy, who freely gives the gifts of compassion and love to others.  She is a wonderful example of “Susie”.    This story reminds me of how important it is for us to take time everyday to connect with Spirit.  Let’s open our hearts up, be in the present, and choose to recognize those opportunities that are always around us to support others in sharing our compassion and love.

We want to open up to compassion, understanding, and love instead of making fun of others mishaps; causing them to feel badly, guilty, and possibly feeling they’re not accepted and that something is wrong with them..  Being honest with yourself about how you would like to be treated when you make a mistake or become embarrassed will help you to give that to others.  Let’s become like “Susie” and see how much kindness we can give today.

This is an opportunity to be an example for our children, grandchildren, and others.  An example of compassion, love, and giving kindness to those around us.  We can be a small part of changing the world.

Sending you much Love,

Joyce

Hello Everyone,

The handsome picture above is George.  George was rescued from a puppy mill last summer.  He and his mother, Martha, were rescued together.  They were both very thin and in poor health and had to be treated for heart-worms and other physical conditions due to their environment.  Puppy mills treat animals as a commodity – something of use to create products (puppies) for selling.  The dogs lives are not valued, only the money they can bring in.  In this abusive environment their trust of people and of themselves is certainly not nurtured, just the opposite, it is stripped brutally away from them.

My oldest Golden Retriever, Angel, died last summer.  I rescued her when she was 2 years old and she had 13 good years with me, my family, and our other Golden, Daisy.  This breed is definitely pack animals so I decided to rescue another Golden.  But instead I became a foster parent for AGA (Adopt a Golden Atlanta).  I became George and Martha’s foster.  Daisy, being a balanced dog, accepted them into our home unconditionally.

George and Martha were very dependant on each other so in order to prevent more trauma AGA wanted to keep them together when adopted.  For three months we would go to the monthly adoption day where potential adopters came to see the 50 or more rescued Golden’s.  Not all of the Golden’s were from puppy mills, some were found on the streets, but most were given up by families who either couldn’t afford them or couldn’t care for them anymore.

During that three months I worked to rehabilitate George and Martha in order to build trust.  George was most challenged.  He had been kept outside in a small cage all of his 4 years so he was fearful in my large backyard and the anxiety caused him to go round and round in a small circle.   He wouldn’t come to me.  When he was in the house he picked out a corner and that is where he would stay.  He was afraid of everything. every noise, every movement, and even afraid to eat his food.

You’ve probably guessed by now that I adopted both of them.  Martha was doing very well and George was beginning to make some progress with trusting me.  I didn’t want to disrupt their life again and I was fortunate to have the extra time that was needed to work with them.

It’s been 6 months now and George is doing so well.  He is beginning to act like a “dog”.  He walks around and sniffs the backyard, he also sniffs Martha and Daisy’s butts and the cats butt – which is very normal for animals. That’s one way they communicate with each other.  He picks up toys, isn’t quite sure yet what to do with them, but he’s learning from Daisy.  He goes in and out of the doggy door by himself to go potty.  When I go outside with him he will come to me.  He also comes back inside the house on his own, whereas before he would stay outside and cry, anxious and afraid to come back in the house.

He isn’t afraid to come into the kitchen to eat.  He feels free to go into other rooms in the house and doesn’t stay in a corner anymore.  He sleeps beside my bed and will lay his head beside me so I will pet him.  He will eat out of my hand and will push through Martha and Daisy so I will pet him.  The puppy in him is coming alive.  It warms my heart to be a part of and to see the transformation he has made.

George is finding the courage to take risks and step out of what had become his comfort zone.   He is beginning to see that there is nothing to be afraid of. He is learning to trust himself and in return is beginning to trust me.  The fear that triggered George and his reactions to it were based on past treatment of abuse and the memories that were left in his subconscious mind. He’s beginning to recognize that trusting me and coming to me represents good things – I give him treats, pats on the head, and words of praise.

There were occasions when I would need to take a time out and refocus because I would get frustrated.  When I get frustrated the feeling of being helpless comes over me.  That gave me an opportunity to practice, not only patience with George, but patience with myself.  Animals feel our emotions, so when I was feeling frustrated and helpless it triggered George’s fear and anxiety sending him back to his fearful behavior.  Change doesn’t happen overnight, it takes focus, determination, and patience. For some it takes months, even years. George isn’t over his fear and probably never will be completely.  He may never be what some would call a “normal dog”, but then again what’s normal? George is okay right where he is.  He is beginning to sense that he is in a safe place where he can practice being the beautiful, loving puppy that has always been inside of him.

We have all known people who are so fearful it effects their quality of life.  All of us have been there.  Some people have learned to hide it through many different disguises.  We are very good at rationalizing, blaming, making excuses, and beating ourselves up. Dogs don’t think like we do so it is very evident when their life is controlled by fear. They don’t try to rationalize, blame, make excuses, or beat themselves up.  Dogs like George do block themselves off emotionally and possibly never learn to trust people. George doesn’t think about whether someone likes him or not, he only knows how he is treated and that determines his behavior and quality of life.  The treatment he received in the past created fear in him.  His innocence and natural ability to be a playful, loving, and trusting puppy was never nurtured, it was taken from him, and in it’s place he learned to be fearful, doubtful, distrusting, and anxious.

Human beings, as children, can also have their innocence and natural ability to play, love, and trust taken from them as well. People, unlike animals, do have the ability to reason, rationalize, come up with excuses, and blame others for their fear, distrust, and unhappiness.  We push our fears down and hide them from others – or at least we think we do.  We also have the ability to make different choices and use our ability to reason in a productive way. We have access to knowledge and tools to recognize how fear was created in us.  We become aware that fear isn’t our true nature and that we have the power within us to change and to no longer be fearful of what others do, say, or think.  We can learn to trust ourselves and our own inner knowing. We can create a new life, one that heals and brings us the happiness we want.

Words can’t express the joy I feel as I have watched George’s transformation from a fearful dog to his natural state of being a happy, playful puppy.  He is beginning to trust himself which supports his trust in me.  I’m providing George with a safe place, but it is George who is doing the work and taking the risks to trust again.  I feel the same joy when I am able to provide a safe place for my clients to be who they are now.  Through my acceptance, patience, and trust they begin to recognize the natural beauty that has always been inside of them just waiting to feel safe to come out.  Whether it be a person or a dog, it’s a wonderful feeling being a part of their transformation from a fear based life into a life full of abundance, love, trust, and happiness.

George is a wonderful example to all of us that anything is possible.  When we are surrounded by people we can trust and that want the best for us we can change.  Of course George didn’t pick me – anyway I don’t think he did – but we can choose the people we want to be around on a regular basis. Choose people that will nurture you in a loving, accepting way.  People that trust you to know what is best for you.  People that encourage you, love you, and accept you as you are.  They don’t expect you to do things in a certain way, they don’t judge you, but instead they encourage you to be yourself and to make your own choices.  These people recognize that we are all on our own journey and it’s okay.

When we continue to stay in a negative environment most of the time, negativity is what we continue to attract.  Negativity keeps us down, depressed, overwhelmed, and unhappy.  When you choose to be around people that smile and laugh a lot and are happy; people that praise you, hug you, encourage and accept you, this is what you will begin to attract into your life.

I would love to hear any comments or insights you have to share regarding my blog – “Learning to Trust Yourself”.  If you have a story you’d like to share regarding a special animal in your life I would love to hear it.

Sending love and blessings, Joyce

]]> http://www.unlockingyourvision.com/learning-trust/feed/ 0 http://www.unlockingyourvision.com/limiting-beliefs/ http://www.unlockingyourvision.com/limiting-beliefs/#comments Tue, 05 May 2009 03:07:51 +0000 admin-jnh http://www.unlockingyourvision.com/?p=80 What do you believe about yourself?  Do you think it’s too late to change?  Do you think that you are less talented, less creative, or less intelligent than others?  Do you think it’s too late to travel, take an art class, start a business, or make new friends?  Do you think that your health keeps you from doing what you want?  Do all of these thoughts wear you out and drain your energy?

The world is so complex and when we are so caught up in the illusion of things having to be a certain way we are then disconnected from our Higher Self.  When we are caught up in the illusion of how things should be or shouldn’t be it is then that our conscious mind is being easily influenced by our subconscious mind – where our core negative beliefs stay hidden.  They stay hidden because we don’t want to look at them.  We want to avoid them and pretend they don’t exist.  Most of the time we do this unconsciously and that continues to give those core negative beliefs power to influence our choices and our life experiences.  

Think of a time when your conscious mind came up with a wonderful idea or thought about something you wanted, something you wanted to do, or something you wanted to change in your life.  But before you could begin seeing the possibility of this happening and the opportunities that the Universe/God has presented to you, your subconscious mind began sending messages of discouragement telling you the many reasons why you couldn’t do what you wanted, why you couldn’t have what you wanted, or why you couldn’t be what you wanted.  

Here are some possible reasons or excuses you may have told yourself:  I can’t do this – what am I thinking – I’m not smart enough – I’m not spiritual enough – I’m not good enough – who am I to think I deserve this – other people are more important than I am.  When these thoughts/core negative beliefs come up – who usually wins most of the time – your conscious thoughts of wanting and having, or your subconscious beliefs that you can’t have what you want and you don’t deserve to want it?  

Our subconscious mind/core negative beliefs are stronger than our conscious mind leading us to give up, without a fight, on what we really want and so we settle.  The fear of not being able to have what we want causes us to stay in victim mode because we believe deep down that things will never change.    

How can we change this?  WOW!!  I’m right there with you as I have tried so many ways to connect with my higher self – my spiritual intelligence on a regular basis.  I’ve tried many things to create what it is that I want.  In many programs we’re told we have to reprogram those old thoughts and beliefs about ourself that keep us stuck.  We try and yet those old thoughts and beliefs continue to stop us from taking action, from stepping out of our comfort zone, from taking a risk and going for what we want.  We still continue to allow those old thoughts and beliefs to determine our actions most of the time.  

I believe the reason for this is that our old belief system started in our Mother’s womb and has helped to create our old thoughts and behavior patterns.  That is a life long accumulation of negative stuff to try and reprogram.  If we could do it it would take a long, long time.  We may succeed to a small degree but it continues to be more work than we want.  

What I have learned from my own experience is that we can recognize and accept that we have these old beliefs and that it’s okay to have them.  They’re a part of us and they are always going to be in our subconscious.  That isn’t a bad thing, it’s just what it is.  

Being honest about our old beliefs and our feelings about them will help us to turn our focus on our new beliefs and how we can support those. Being clear on what isn’t working and what we don’t want helps us to become clear on what will work and what we do want.  Clarity helps us to bypass those old beliefs and supports our focus in turning our thoughts to our new beliefs.  

Remember those old beliefs are always going to show up when you least expect it.  It all comes down to your willingness to recognize them and accept them, then choose right at that moment to shift your thinking. To be able to do this you have to know what it is that you do want.  Sometimes we aren’t really sure what that is when we are asked.  So take the time to describe what it is you feel you are lacking, clarify what it is you want, list the reasons why you want it and how it would benefit your life.  Even if you want it for the sheer pleasure of having it that is okay.  Until you are completely honest with yourself in being clear about what you want, describing it, and giving the reasons why you want it you can’t create it.  

If you are at a place in your life where you’re recognizing your desire to become more connected to your Higher Self please email joyce@unlockingyourvision.com or call me at 858-945-4928 and I will be happy to have a consultation with you to find clarity as to what it is that you want and how to achieve it.  I will support and empower you with compassion, understanding, acceptance, and with the tools that will move you quickly forward.  You will learn what is holding you back and what is needed in order for you to stop sabotaging yourself from creating the life you want.  Choosing to connect daily with your Higher Self will strengthen your ability to create what you are wanting and then your core negative beliefs will begin to have less and less power in your life.  

You were meant to have a great life, to feel passion, fulfillment, contentment, and joy in living and being; connecting to your Higher Self will support you in having all of that.

I would love to hear your comments on “Connecting to our Higher Self”. 

Warmly, Joyce

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For me the joy of simply being open to life is being open to the challenges that are presented to me each and every day.  The joy is in choosing to look at these experiences as opportunities to learn more about myself, about others, and about life.  The joy is in the insights and awareness’s I receive which supports me in looking at life with love and acceptance.  This creates more joy. 

Joy is created as we accept our self and others for who we are – weaknesses and strengths.  We can only do this when we choose to let go of our expectations.  Expectations can set us up for disappointment.  We can’t control what other people choose to say or do.  We can only control our own choices.  Begin to recognize words that tell you your in expectations – I should, I have to, I need to, I’m expected to – and instead ask yourself, “Do I want to do this?” 

How can we let go of our expectations as we prepare for Christmas Day – by turning them into Intentions?  Once we have identified our expectations, there is a much greater possibility of attaining freedom from being disappointed in others behavior and their reaction to us, and in being disappointed in our self.  You can learn how to reframe your expectations into Intention.  Expectations are what you think ought to happen as a result of what you do, say, or plan.  It’s dependant upon an outside source.  Whereas, Intentions are your approach to life based on the person you truly are – your essence.  It’s dependant only on you – your internal source. When you are focused on your Intention you become focused in the present and you become open to life around you. 

What’s so wonderful is that when you act out of Intention instead of expectations, you begin to experience the joy of being open to life and you expand the possibility for more positive outcomes.  When you live in Intention you are able to find your courage and make the choices that support the person you are truly meant to be.  Setting an intention can support you in having your best holiday season ever.  Take the time to visualize what it is that you want to happen this holiday season.  Ask yourself these questions; how do I want to show up and how can I create my best holiday season ever?   

Gratitude’s are also valuable in supporting your intention and turning your holiday experience into something good that will help not only you but other people as well.  Gratitude’s help you to recognize all that is right and beautiful in your life and in your day.  Gratitude’s help you to acknowledge your fine qualities, abilities, and accomplishments.  Gratitude’s support you in spending your time and energy in the moment rather than trying to understand the why.  When you are in a state of Gratitude you allow your peaceful voice of intuition to become your primary guiding force.

Gratitude’s do more than make you feel good for awhile, they literally change the way you think.  Gratitude’s shift your focus so that you are aware of what you have instead of what you don’t have.  When you make Gratitude’s an important part of your day this holiday season, you will increase your ability to see opportunities and possibilities where perhaps none existed before. 

As Christmas Day approaches make a list of all the people and things in your life that you are grateful for.  Try to put aside any dread, anger, resentment, or disappointment and focus on creating good thoughts.  Think about the opportunities and possibilities that are available to you on that day.  Set an intention around how you want to show up on Christmas Day.  Become clear in your mind as to what you want to experience and what will support you in achieving that goal.  Setting an intention, being grateful, looking for opportunities and possibilities, and being clear on what it is that you want will help you to focus on the present moment and enjoy what is happening now. 

I wish you the best Holiday Season ever!!!

Blessings, Joyce

I would enjoy hearing your comments on what “Being Open to the Holidays” means to you…

Joyce Henderson

Certified Fearless Living Coach

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Some healers believe that conditional love (expecting something in return) can create exhaustion and depression of the immune system leading to physical vulnerability; whereas unconditional love (without expectations) is a powerful stimulant to the immune system.  If this is so, it is no wonder dolphins appear to be able to help people recover from depression and other illnesses. 

Many of us tend to think we give unconditional love but often it is accompanied with expectations.  We expect things to happen a certain way.  Our family and friends are thrown into the struggle as we expect as much from them as we do from ourselves.  And, when we’ve done all we “should” do, “paid our dues” and “gone the extra mile”, we want guaranteed results and to be treated fairly in return.  Disappointment is always around the corner if things don’t turn out the way we expect. 

Expectations that are unspoken, unrealistic and unmet can cause us to make choices that can be harmful to us and to those we love.  When we assume others can read our mind and know what we need, want, or desire we are setting them up for failure and for future blame.   It seems easier to blame others rather than look inside of ourselves for answers.  In truth, we are the only one who is responsible for getting our own needs met.  We want to practice communicating our needs, wants, and desires clearly, otherwise, nobody involved has a clear idea of what went wrong.  We simply feel confused and powerless.  But no one is doing anything to us we are reacting to our own fear. 

Our expectations don’t make us wrong or stupid.  They make us human.   In most cases we all just want to be understood, respected, and loved and when we don’t feel that way our fear is triggered, things become confused, and we look to others or things to make us feel better.  When we push that responsibility onto others then we have no control because we’ve given our power away.  We have to be willing to take responsibility for our own feelings, our own choices, and that’s where we have the power to change things. 

The good news is that once we begin to identify the expectations that trigger our fear, we will be able to take proactive, self affirming actions to help us get back into our freedom of unconditional love and acceptance of our self and others.  Life is a continuous process of change with challenges at every level of growth.  Fear will always come up, but we’ll get better and better at eliminating the kind of expectations that prevent us from outsmarting and mastering our fear. 

As we accept that our expectations are a part of being human and as we accept that the feelings of fear, sadness, anger, self judgment, and disappointment will come up then those feelings become much more workable.  We recognize that those feelings are just like the weather – always changing, coming and going through our lives.  And what they pass through is the vast spaciousness of who we truly are.  As we become aware we are able to accept, and embrace those negative feelings, learn from their message, and then let go of any identification with them.  Thus allowing them to visit us temporarily, move through us, and then let them go. 

I send you Love and Blessings, Joyce 

I would like to hear your views on expectations and how they affect your life.  

Don’t let fear keep you stuck by complaining, making excuses, or ignoring the situation.  This is an opportunity to be a part of the change that is needed in helping our country move forward and thrive.  In order to be a part of this opportunity we have to VOTE on election day, November 4th, 2008.  I’ve included a blog written my Rhonda Britten, founder of Fearless Living Institute and author of “Fearless Living”.  This article expresses my feelings and I hope encourages you to be a part of this time of challenge.

Warmly, Joyce

Election – written by Rhonda Britten 

This election, being fearless means you will:
1. Vote
I have spoken to many folks and some are hemming and hawing not sure who to vote for. The next words out of their mouth shock me: I will vote but not for the President. Or I hear: I just don’t know who to vote for so I just won’t vote.WHAT!!!?!?!?!?!
Indecision is a natural part of the process but deciding not to decide IS deciding. If you don’t vote, you are giving the rest of the nation the opportunity to choose your fate. I challenge you to figure out where else in your life you are allowing ‘fate’ to make your decisions for you. This is a passive way to live and not the fearless path.

2. Language
Become aware of the fearbased language the candidates use as well as their fearless words. What issues concern you? Pay attention to how the candidates are proposing to solve them. What is their process? Are they making suggestions based on the fear of the masses? Are they creating long lasting solutions? Listen, listen, listen. Do not let your Wheel of Fear listen for you.

3. Think about your great grandchildren
The challenges we face right now are ones that must be solved for the long-term. Short-term solutions are band-aids. Sometimes we need a band-aid but if we keep the band-aid on too long it gets crusty, infected and ineffective. A band-aid is not a solution. Just like a wound we must let it heal and that takes time and care.

Every election is critical for the creation of the United States of America. We are literally choosing how our nation will develop based on the candidates and their policies.

I urge us all to pay attention to how we listen, how we decide, how we vote.

We will have a new President. Decide to have your voice be heard. Vote.

“Invest in the life you have now to get the life you want”  Rhonda Britten

To learn more about Fearless Living go to:  www.fearlessliving.org 

Courage is a door that can only be opened from the inside.
– Terry Neil

Self-confidence empowers us to live life fearlessly and happily.  Do I have Self-Confidence?  To answer that question, one could ask: Do I love myself?  Do I trust myself?  Do I believe in myself?  Do I treat myself kindly?  Do I enjoy being me?

The answer comes from our thoughts; those we think about most of the time have become our reality.  Thoughts are the result of beliefs.  At the very core of those beliefs that shape your life, your health, career, relationships, finances, and level of happiness are the thoughts you have about yourself.

Where does self-confidence come from?  It comes from the feedback of others, and from our own internal self-interpretations.  For example, does a child have self-confidence who has never experienced the love, encouragement, and praise from a parent?  Does a comedian have self-confidence who has never made people laugh?  Does an engineer have self-confidence who has never developed a design that works?  Does a lover have self-confidence who has never experienced the joys of intimacy with another?  Our self-confidence comes from the way we interpret our experiences.

Having self-confidence doesn’t mean that we don’t make mistakes.  We all make mistakes and we are all capable of criticizing self, our body, our mate, our career, and our children while neglecting to see those qualities that are attractive.  As we choose to shift our thinking and are able to look at our mistakes as opportunities to learn and grow, self-confidence arises out of what was formerly disapproval and judgment of self and others.

When you have self-confidence you are able to trust yourself and begin to listen to your own inner voice.  You know you are able to rely on your own choices, decisions, and actions.  You have peace of mind regardless of your current circumstances.  You have the ability to reduce the anxiety that is so detrimental to a youthful, healthy life.

Are you willing to recreate yourself to have the life you want?  It’s important to remember that creation takes place in each moment.  It’s a process and requires you to be gentle, patient, and loving to yourself.  It requires you to accept yourself as you are now in order to become the person you want to be.  It requires you to begin choosing your thoughts.  As you continue to create the person you want to be, the new thoughts will become as automatic as the old ones had been.  Though it isn’t easy to create new mental habit patterns, with practice it becomes possible.  Expect that your self-work will give you results, and it will.

I would love to hear from you and any thoughts you have on how our thoughts  affect our self-confidence and our life.   

Warmly, Joyce

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Do you ever put yourself down for not getting everything done, not getting it done right, and not getting it done fast enough? Do you ever feel guilty because you think you could have done the work better? Do you ever feel worthless because nothing you do seems good enough? Do you ever say to yourself, “What the heck is wrong with you?” “How could you do something like that?” “Won’t you ever learn?”

Beating yourself up will never motivate you to change. Beating yourself up with negative self-talk is the single most damaging thing you can do to yourself. As Rhonda Britten would say, “You’re spinning on the wheel of fear.” When you beat yourself up your confidence, courage, and self-esteem are damaged. You disempower yourself and it keeps you in your negative self-talk.

What if you stopped beating yourself up and instead empowered yourself in any situation? You could accomplish living your life on your own terms. You could shift your negative thoughts about yourself to empowering thoughts. You would begin to notice the things that you do well. You would begin to notice your unique qualities, your skills, your talents, and accept that you’re okay just the way you are.

Awareness is the key and can empower you to stop beating yourself up. Increased awareness helps you to hear your negative self-talk immediately after you utter it. By catching it more quickly you can then choose to stop it and shift to more empowering, good feeling thoughts leading to positive actions

Acknowledging yourself daily is an amazing tool to stop the habit of beating yourself up. This technique builds your self-esteem and your ability to count on yourself. It is a specific way of giving yourself credit – credit that is no doubt long overdue. Acknowledgments are an incredible tool for self-discovery, giving you the ability to increase your awareness of who you really are and at the same time validating your achievements.

Trying to be perfect only leads you to disappointment. Learn to be kind and compassionate to yourself, give yourself a break, and quit trying to be perfect.

I would like to receive your thoughts on fear and how it can control our lives and our choices.

Sending You Love and Blessings, Joyce

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“Live the Life Your Soul Intended” quote by Rhonda Britten founder of the Fearless Living Institute and author of the book “Fearless Living”. www.FearlessLiving.org

We are what we repeatedly do.

–Aristotle

“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.” –Oliver Wendell Holmes

We attract that which we desire when our subconscious thoughts and beliefs are in harmony with what we consciously intend.  But if our subconscious thoughts and beliefs run contrary to our conscious wishes we may ultimately lose the result we have achieved or want to achieve because the strength of our subconscious beliefs tends to eventually win out.  This is not cause for blame or guilt.  After all, we are not aware of how our subconscious beliefs work.  So how do we get clear of these contrary beliefs?  It’s all about “becoming aware”.  For my life the first area to explore was fear and how it was affecting my life and my choices.  How it prevented me from attracting and receiving that which would support my health, well-being and happiness.

I first recognized the definition of emotional fear and my body’s reaction to it.  My body’s reaction to fear was the same whether I was faced with a physical threat or an emotional one.  The problem was that the experience of a real or perceived threat was stored in my long-term memory.  So when I would see or hear something that appeared to be a threat my instinct was to run to avoid the pain whether it was physical or emotional.  I didn’t think to stop and find out whether the danger was real or not.

Throughout my life I added to my fears through my experiences.  As these negative experiences, either perceived or real, happened regularly over many years then my mental, emotional, and physical health were affected and clearly in danger.  This harmed my ability to experience my natural state of harmony and balance, good health and well-being, and it harmed my ability to simply enjoy life.

Becoming aware was the first step to healthy change.  I made the choice to become aware of how emotional fear was running my life and I learned what those fears were.  I then had the power to break free of my conditioning (old patterns of thinking and behavior) and make choices about how I wanted to think and behave.  Otherwise my subconscious mind and my conditioning would continue to decide for me.

I learned about the Fearless Living tools and concepts and I now use them in my own life daily.  They have shown me how to outsmart fear rather than allowing the memory of fear to determine my life.  I have learned to embrace the fullness of who I am including my limitations.  I have learned and practice daily making choices that support me in being my true self – the person I was meant to be.  I am once again able to experience my natural state of harmony and balance, good health and well-being, and I’m able to simply enjoy life once again.

My experience can also be your experience if you choose to explore how fear controls your choices, your health and well-being, and your happiness.  Self awareness is the key to transformation and in creating the life you desire.

I would like to receive your thoughts on fear and how it can control our lives and our choices.

“Live the Life Your Soul Intended” quote by Rhonda Britten founder of the Fearless Living Institute and author of the book “Fearless Living”.

“Do not fear going forward slowly, fear only to stand still. -Chinese Proverb

“You are not stuck where you are unless you decide to be. -Wayne W. Dyer