I read an article recently about a researcher, neuroscientist Dr. John Lilly. He has worked with Dolphins for over 20 years and suggests that the dolphin’s brain waves equate with those waves that, in humans, accompany the meditative state. This may explain why people who spend some time in the water with dolphins describe the experience as transcendental.
According to Dr. Lilly, by reason of the dolphin’s peaceful, content, and compassionate nature, the dolphin has an energy vibration which exerts a powerful and positive influence on humans. In order for us to exert a powerful and positive influence with others we need to accept our self and others for who we are and begin to recognize and embrace the beauty that is in all of us. When we can accomplish this then our nature will become that of peaceful, content, and compassionate. A person who is inwardly truly happy will make other people feel encouraged just by his or her presence and the stronger the personality, the more influential it will be.
Accepting our self and others for who we are, weaknesses and strengths, means letting go of our expectations. Expectations can set us up for disappointment and set others up for failure and future blame. We can’t control what other people choose to say or do. We can only control our own choices.
How can we eliminate expectations? We can turn them into intentions. Once we have identified our expectations, there is much greater possibility of attaining Freedom from being disappointed in others behavior or reaction to us. You can learn which expectations are realistic and which ones are unrealistic. You can learn how to reframe your expectations into intention. Expectations are what you think ought to happen as a result of what you do, say, or plan. It’s dependent upon an outside source. Whereas, intentions are your approach to life based on the person you truly are. Ask yourself these questions: ”How do I want to show up today?” “How do I want to be in this moment?” Then allow your internal beauty and your spiritual essence to determine your choices. It’s dependent only on you – your internal source of wisdom.
What’s so wonderful is that when you act out of intention instead of expectations, you are more likely to experience positive outcomes. When you approach life with intention instead of expectations, you expand the possibility for mutual satisfaction and support. When living in intention, accountability is a priority. Our life is in our hands, no one else’s. We learn that blaming another is just wasting away our time, energy, and creativity. This leads to regret and resentment, which leads to losing our power, our choices, and our courage to shine – our courage to be the person we want to be and the person we were meant to be.
All that you seek or desire is in you. It’s not in your environment or the help of others; it is not in luck or chance; it is in your self alone. Trusting yourself and setting intentions will support you in moving forward and living the life you desire.
Eliminating expectations is a process of transformation. Many times it can be uncomfortable and scary so having support from someone you trust is a must. Sometimes it can be a friend or relative, other times you may need someone more experienced in this field of change and transformation.
Your willingness to take the step of investing in your life is well worth what you will receive. You will begin to deliberately create and attract the people and things that support the quality of life you want and desire.
“Live the Life Your Soul Intended” –Rhonda Britten – author of Fearless Living. “You are not stuck where you are unless you decide to be” –Wayne W. Dyer. “Do not fear going forward slowly, fear only to stand still” –Chinese Proverb
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Sending You Love and Courage to be the Person You were Meant to BE!
Joyce Henderson
Tags: Blame, Courage, disappointment, Energy, Expectations, Fear, fearless living, Freedom, happiness, Intention, judgment
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Wonderful. This is what I have been telling my kids and parents and friends for so long. Not having expectations (someone, something in charge of your feelings and emotions) is truly freedom. Freedom to be you!