Do you ever put yourself down for not getting everything done, not getting it done right, and not getting it done fast enough? Do you ever feel guilty because you think you could have done the work better? Do you ever feel worthless because nothing you do seems good enough? Do you ever say to yourself, “What the heck is wrong with you?” “How could you do something like that?” “Won’t you ever learn?”
Beating yourself up will never motivate you to change. Beating yourself up with negative self-talk is the single most damaging thing you can do to yourself. As Rhonda Britten would say, “You’re spinning on the wheel of fear.” When you beat yourself up your confidence, courage, and self-esteem are damaged. You disempower yourself and it keeps you in your negative self-talk.
What if you stopped beating yourself up and instead empowered yourself in any situation? You could accomplish living your life on your own terms. You could shift your negative thoughts about yourself to empowering thoughts. You would begin to notice the things that you do well. You would begin to notice your unique qualities, your skills, your talents, and accept that you’re okay just the way you are.
Awareness is the key and can empower you to stop beating yourself up. Increased awareness helps you to hear your negative self-talk immediately after you utter it. By catching it more quickly you can then choose to stop it and shift to more empowering, good feeling thoughts leading to positive actions
Acknowledging yourself daily is an amazing tool to stop the habit of beating yourself up. This technique builds your self-esteem and your ability to count on yourself. It is a specific way of giving yourself credit – credit that is no doubt long overdue. Acknowledgments are an incredible tool for self-discovery, giving you the ability to increase your awareness of who you really are and at the same time validating your achievements.
Trying to be perfect only leads you to disappointment. Learn to be kind and compassionate to yourself, give yourself a break, and quit trying to be perfect.
I would like to receive your thoughts on fear and how it can control our lives and our choices.
Sending You Love and Blessings, Joyce
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“Live the Life Your Soul Intended” quote by Rhonda Britten founder of the Fearless Living Institute and author of the book “Fearless Living”. www.FearlessLiving.org
We are what we repeatedly do.
–Aristotle
“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.” –Oliver Wendell Holmes



